Through this whole gay marriage thing I’m just kind of sitting here like,
Okay. Now talk about the recent proposition in Arizona to jail transgender people for using the bathroom of their gender. Now talk about the homelessness of queer youth, and the suicide rates, and the fact that the average age for a transgender person is around 23 years. Now talk about the violence, and the murder rates, and the hate crimes. Now talk about the lack of protection in the work place. Talk about how homophobia and transphobia are being taught to kids as young as five. Talk about how a queer person will live their lives getting slurs thrown at them, and how that’s perfectly okay, apparently. Talk about how people get disowned by their families when they come out, and how underage kids have to fight to live on the streets because of this. Talk about how trans* women can’t even take advantage of women’s shelters. Talk about how gay men and lesbians have almost achieved better lives by shitting on everyone else.
Then you can come talk to me about gay marriage.
I say fuck your marriage until I feel safe taking a piss in public.
This is a huge step in the right direction for LGBTQ rights as a whole. 60 years ago, gay people could be thrown in insane asylums, and today there is such support for gay marriage that it has a real shot at becoming nationally legalized. Do you understand how amazing that is? Transgender rights and protections in this country are abysmal but the fact this legislation even made it as far as it did is a momentous occasion in American history and a clear sign that we are progressing. This is a huge milestone in our history and could pave the way for a flood of new legislature in the same vein. Obviously gay marriage isn’t the be all, end all of LGBTQ civil rights and we have an awful long way to go, but we can work towards our goals without begrudging the success of others.
“Crab theory” is something that’s talked about in the Deaf community a lot. It is the idea that in a hypothetical bucket of crabs, the crabs toward the bottom will hold onto the crabs at the top, preventing any crab from escaping. No one progresses or “wins” by holding each other back. You can continue to fight for trans rights and at the same time marvel at what a few decades of activism and dedication have done.